By DailyTab24. 29, Nov. 2023.
In Africa, marriage is driven by strong principles that tend to accord more right to men, but in this commentary, an African conservative details why there must be a captain who sails the ship of marriage.
“I Am Married, But Still Open For Relationship…
No Intention To Marry More Than One Wife. It’s Personal Decision…
I Live In Sound Peace With My Family…Will Live Till Tomorrow…
My Wife Can Only Tell Me To Avoid Ladies With Intention Of Marriage Or Unwanted Stuff Hence We/I Don’t Want It… Even If I Ever Decide To, Which Is Not Possible To Decide, She Will Make The Choice For Me…And Bring The Person In, No Squabble! If That’s What I Like, She Likes It. She Will Even Control It…
It Goes With Embracing Our Culture Beforehand, All Our Women Should Be Taught A Man Has Right To Multiple Wives, And Love Is Not Defined By Sex, But Commitment.
This Is Not Civilized Pattern Or Western Style, It’s Ancestral Style…Most Women Or People Speak Bad About This Very Culture Because They Have Been Misled To Believe This Life Is As It Pleases And Not Principled.
I Don’t Advise Everybody To Exhibit Such, Especially People That Married Without Spiritual Clarification, You Might Lose Your Marriage…Cos You Didn’t Settle The Unavoidable!
I Am Doing It Because My Wife Is Okay With It, She Accepted It As Long As It Relaxes Me Or Gives Me Comfort And The Flexibility To Continue With My Business Of Family Building… Above All, I Made Sure She Was Aware Of Me Being An Ardent Cultural Person Before Marriage…I Was Open Before Marriage And Open In Marriage Because I Spiritually Clarified My Marriage…The Spirit Of God Gave Her Sound Wisdom Of Extra-ordinary Submission…Note: Not Slavery!
It Takes Extraordinary Submission To Make A Successful Marriage. A Woman Must Submit, And That Submission, To Achieve It Needs Spiritual Clarification Before Marriage. Nobody Likes Submission Without Concession, So, To Get A Woman To Submit Needs Spiritual Settling…Such Settling Is Done Before Marriage, So They Could Give You The Clarified Wife.
For Those That Will Ask What If My Wife Goes Out Like Me…
Sorry, I Owned A House, I Approached Her, I Married Her, And Paid Bride Price. She Is Mine, And She Should Understand My Responsibility Is To Respect Her, Fend For The Family And If Relationship Gives Me The Strength To Go About My Fundamental Responsibility, What More?
She Came Into My House And Beared My Name. So, I Have A Leverage And I Own The House. I Am Responsible For Ezi Na Uno.. (Outside And Inside Home) Outside Home For My Relationship, Inside ‘Home’ For My Wife… That Is The Completeness Of A Mature African Husband. Polygamy Or Infidelity Is Not A Must, It Doesn’t Define An African Man, Rather, Commitment To His Family.
Above All, There Is No Spiritual Implication For Relationship Outside Home For Or From A Man… While There Is For Or From A Woman…It Has Nothing To Do With Culture, But Spiritual Principle Or Heirachy…With Exception Of Levites (Ndi Isi Nchu Aja) A Levite Loses His Spiritual Power When He Goes Out, Rather, He Should Marry Another Who Tickles His Fancies… Free To Marry As Many That Tickles His Fancy…
What I Owe My Wife Is My Responsibility Of Fending And Making Sure She Is Happy And Prioritize Her…
Your Lecture Of How It’s This Or That Should Be Discussed With The West, Not With Me. After All, Marriage Has Become A Piece Of Rubbish Due To The So-called Western Civilization…
Western Marriage, Marriage As An Institution In The West Has Completely Collapsed Simply Because A Woman Wants Two Captains On The Ship…
Can Two Captains Sail A Ship?
In The End, Our Culture Will Be The Last Resort For Marital Sanity…Our Culture Of A Husband’s Flexibility Has Biological Proof Of Right…
But, If You Can Stick With Your Wife Till Death, That’s Good, But It Shouldn’t Be The Reason You Rant Rubbish About Solomons…
The Wisest Man On Earth Had Relationships Outside Marriage, While A Fool Like You Believes It’s Unwise To Act Like The Wisest Man On Earth…
Look, What You Need To Do Is…
Research Or Investigate What Solomon Did That Made His Wives Happy Or Accepted His Decisions To Date Outside…
That Is The Difference…I Have Researched And Investigated And Can Be Like Him And My Ancestors Who Are Wise As Solomon…”
